抑郁|从小被偏爱的孩子，长大怎么抑郁了？( 四 )

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《被嫌弃的松子的一生》
虽然不管多大年纪，我们总是会对父母的评价“感到脆弱”。
但希望你知道，父母对“宠儿”的选择，通常与他们自身（有意识或无意识）的需求有关，跟孩子“是不是更值得被期待/喜欢”没有关系。
祝你得到真实和恰到好处的爱。
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作者：江湖边
责编：Kuma
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